Ever heard of habitual confidence?
In the simplest terms, it’s the understanding that confidence is a habit, not some unobtainable thing.
That's right. Confidence is a skill, and like any skill, it can be learned and developed through the systems you build. If you want to be more confident, you absolutely can!
I can vouch for this personally. There have been many times in my life where I felt uncomfortable with how I looked, how I felt, and doubted whether I could achieve something big, like starting a business. But in my mid-20s (I’m turning 30 next month—damn!), I got curious.
I got curious about how I could become better and why I am the way I am.
So I started learning from great people who talk about the mind, personal development and human behaviour, like Bob Proctor, Simon Sinek, and Jim Rohn. What I learned from all of them is that you and I have the power to develop our own confidence.
Here's a simple 6-step breakdown on how:
Identify the person you want to become.
Focus on ONE habit that will have the most immediate impact.
Perform your habit for one month. Commit to it at least four days a week.
Show up and never miss twice in a row.
Conduct an end-of-month review to see the impact it’s had on your life.
Go again!
Here's an example of how this builds confidence:
Identity Goal: I want to be a physically healthy person so I can grow old gracefully and spend quality time with my kids.
Your New Habit: Walk four times a week (on specific days/times).
The Result: You start feeling happier because you’ve shown up and are making progress. This leads to a slight but real increase in confidence!
Your mind needs evidence that you can do something to become more confident, and the only way to get that is by showing up. Until that evidence is collected you will remain that person who has no confidence.
With that all being said it is crucial to start with a very realistic habit.
Don't fool yourself into thinking it'll be simple—it won't be, and neither should it—but you can make that first step as simple as possible by creating a first habit that helps you walk before you can run.
I like to say that it all starts with one.
Once you can conquer one thing, you have the ability to do it all.
PHOTO OF THE WEEK
3 months of creating my new identity as a physically active and healthy individual.
Join me next week as I talk more about identity goals vs definitive goals.
Until then, any questions please fire away.
Speak soon.
Bradley Hession